Hamlet's True Love for Ophelia

I know that many people think in the 'get thee to a nunnery' scene Hamlet is being horribly and abominably rude. I do not feel so. Because as Hamlet lounges at Ophelia's feet he tells her the same thing just in a softer way and tells her to 'marry no man and to not be a breeder of sinners' because all men are liars. When it is put in this light some of the things that he said to her don't seem to be so harsh. Also at the time of the shouting scene Hamlet feels that Ophelia is involved in the conspiracy to spy on him, which she is just not to her knowledge. At the time Ophelia did lie to Hamlet and tell him that her father was at home, whether she knew she was lying or not is debatable, but Hamlet took this as an offence, and we get the whole yelling match.